When you’re in the grip of overwhelming emotions,

The world gets smaller. Your viewpoint shrinks to a lens of fear and keeping yourself as safe as possible. This prevents us from truly connecting with others, because we can’t widen our view to see all the possibilities inherent in the other person (or situation).

Each human we meet is an entire universe of experiences, emotions, wisdom, and potential futures, all swirling at once — and often informed by how they view their own past.

When we bring our own universe of perceptions to the table, we might not take things as they are. We might take things as we see them in that moment.

“We don’t see things as they are. We see them as we are.”

~ Anaïs Nin

Think of yourself as a tree.

  • We often hear of our family ties being “strong roots,” but what about when those connections don’t feel like they’ve made you strong? When the way you talk to yourself doesn’t reflect a belief in yourself, or that your branches can’t weather the storm? This is why seemingly small situations can make you feel like you’re going to break.. so you often find yourself bending to the will of others until you snap.

  • Now that you’re an adult, it’s time to tend your soil so you can begin to grow your own deep roots. You can do this mindfully, by choosing which parts of your past you’d like to hold onto moving forward, and leaving the rest of the broken branches behind. You don’t have to set yourself on fire to keep being there for everyone else. You can release those bits you don’t like as kindling, and make room for future growth.

Why Peaceful Accountability?

For the same reason that peace after chaos often feels out of reach — because we often feel helpless and out of control.

Because you weren’t empowered as a child, and now you struggle to feel empowered as an adult.

When you’ve reached the point of feeling like your too-big emotions are running your life and blocking your goals, it’s time to start looking deeper than how you’re going to get through the next big milestone, holiday, or major event.

You just want someone to tell you what to do or how to get started, and deep down all you really need to start making true progress is to feel accepted and safe.

Now that you’re an adult, the only person who can give you that is you. Peaceful Accountability is the “how.”

How do you start sifting through all this stuff??

One step at a time.

  • With my clients, we begin at the roots. What have you been believing about this block in your life, that isn’t true? Whose standards have you been trying to meet? Where did this limiting belief come from? We follow the trail to observe the patterns this root has played out in your life. What manifestations have come of this? What parts would you like to change? What fears, false identities, or unmet needs have been holding you back?

  • We focus on building a strong foundation along the way, a toolkit you can rely on when needed. As we learn which areas you need help in, we also celebrate the areas you excel in. We catalog your inner strengths and you start leaning on them in daily situations, rather than those prior limiting beliefs about yourself. This allows you to leave shame and guilt behind, and start to see real results.

Why this method is so effective

You’ve experienced a lifetime of gaslighting. From family, partners, or even yourself. When we look at the areas of your life that you want to change, and see that prior methods have not been working, we MUST look at the damaging belief systems that have been planted into your system — because they are preventing you from growing.

Viewing these perceived failures through a new lens, one that is aware of your past trauma and its complex effects on your life, mind, and psyche… that takes a LOT of self-compassion and forgiveness. With this method, I guide you through that.

This kind of healing asks you to ditch your old way of seeing yourself and start to believe in your magic instead. That’s probably the hardest part. Because that inner critic has been convincing you that you’re a loser or unworthy for so long.

This is why therapy often hasn’t given you the results you wanted, either — you just keep talking about the same cycles, but without the release you would feel if you deleted those lenses you’ve been viewing yourself through.

You can talk about your trauma all day, but if you’re still viewing the world (and yourself and others) through the same fear-guided belief system, you’re going to see similar patterns manifest in your life, even in other ways.

When you reach the point of true peace and accountability in your life, that doesn’t happen anymore.

The Peaceful Accountability Method blends mind-body techniques, energy awareness, guided relaxation, and nervous system repatterning to gently allow you to form your own new foundation of inner peace.

Whether you’re feeling hopeful and ready to try something new, or completely lost and don’t have much hope left…

You can choose to thrive peacefully for the first time in your life.

If you were my friend and we started to chat one day, I would tell you:

It doesn’t have to feel this way. You’re just holding onto things in your nervous system that make things feel bigger and scarier now. And of course you are — how much did you really have to hold onto as a child? As a young adult? Think about your internal support system. What other methods did you have to fall back on?? What example did you have to follow?

There’s no shame in that, my friend. You’re a beautiful soul. You deserve to move forward and feel confidence.

It may feel painful at first, to look at these things you’ve been wanting to get away from, but it doesn’t even compare to the freedom you feel when those things don’t hold power over you anymore.

Don’t forget.. you made it here. You’re more powerful and more magical than you think. And, if you’ll allow me, I can help you uncover so much more of that.